The only expectations that I really have for my children are that they explore their interests whatever they may be and that they are living inside of the will of God leading them to becoming Saints. We want our children to be who and what God calls them to not to "be whoever they want". I have no preference of college vs. no college. I want all of my children to have the ability to be who they are created to be by God without my over or under influencing their choices.
Maybe its not a lack of expectations, but a natural area of faith in who my children are. That they really are "...born persons - they are not blank slates or embryonic oysters who have the potential of becoming persons. They already are persons." As a naturally anxious person, I guess I might be too consumed with the immediate needs of my children. My mother was always praying for my brother and me; I don't think I have ever realized that was the best gift she gave us. I hope that I can cultivate that life long litany for my own children. One prayer that we as a family say is the "Guardian Angel Prayer" which always helps to start the day with an attitude of peace. Another option for handing over children's futures is to pick a patron saint for the family or for the individual family members. We pick a new patron saint for each of us after Thanksgiving dinner for the new liturgical calendar entrusting that Saint with everything.